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’Tis the season to panic because you don’t have gifts for everyone on your list. If you’re asking yourself what you should get someone for the holidays, there are some tried-and-true options. A good cashmere sweater will never be turned away, and gift cards are always put to good use. But why not think outside the box this year and give the gift of pleasure instead? A queer sex toy is an irresistible present, whether you give it to a friend in desperate need of fun, a casual hook-up of your own, or a romantic partner. Don’t resort to a basket of gourmet popcorn when you can steam up the holidays instead.
For novice shoppers, sex toys are so much more than phallic shapes and pink wands. We’ve come a long way from the sort of paraphernalia you might have seen on Sex and the City. In fact, there’s a whole universe of fun, interesting, and unique toys that can elevate a sexual experience. Perhaps a standard vibrator might be perfect for a friend who’s confided in you that they’re on a year-long dry spell. Or, for a partner, a remote-controlled vibrator might reignite a flickering flame. Whatever the situation may be, a sex toy, no matter how simple or complex, can bring a whole new meaning to the term “holiday cheer.” Below are some of our favorite sex toys to give this holiday season.
The Staple Sex Toy
The bread and butter of sex toys, this vibrator is a good place to start. Not only is it sold in a cute pink hue but it’s also equipped with dual motors for double the pleasure. This makes a great gift for friends who are a little shy about putting themselves first. It's also extra quiet and great for discreet play.
There’s an old saying: “You can’t go wrong with a shiny rainbow butt plug.” And who are we to argue with this ancient wisdom? This butt plug is a fantastic option for those who already love anal play and anyone who wants to explore it. Butt plugs are glorious for many reasons: they serve as a decent warm-up before the real action, and can enhance pleasure. Plus, this one sparkles.
Whether someone is too lazy to hop on the app, or just looking for a quick, sweet release, a compact fleshlight can be a staple piece in a good sex toy collection. With a bit of water-based lubricant, this Quickshot proves that less is certainly more.
This finger vibrator adds the extra oomph you need when your hands aren’t enough anymore. This small but mighty toy is equipped with a three speed motor so those receiving this gift can find their preferred level of pleasure.
With over eight inches of glassy endowment and a heart-shaped handle, you’ll want to keep this massager for yourself and display it on a shelf. But it’s a functional option, too, with a ripple design that’s sure to stimulate graciously. The glass means it’s low-maintenance and it looks super cute. This slick, hypoallergenic toy is the exact right amount of flashy for a friend to unwrap.
If you’re looking for a vibrator with pulsing and suction settings, look no further. This smooth black silicone device comes with plenty of options to vary its intensity, rhythm, and speed, making it a great gift for friends with any level of toy experience — from those with an arsenal of vibrators to folks who are just starting to build their collection.
A wand vibrator is an absolute classic when it comes to building any toy collection. Its pulsating head and deep rumbly vibrations makes it easy to use, even if you don’t take your underwear off. Another added bonus is that because the wand plugs directly into the wall, you don’t ever have to worry about it dying in the middle of a self-care session.
Those Looking to Take it Up A Notch
For those who aren’t new to the rodeo, this vibrating machine offers a new level of fun. Its 360-degree rotating vibrator is a test to see how long one can last with a shaft designed to hit the G-spot and a flexible stand of anal beads for good measure. Truly, this is the gift that keeps on giving!
Take sex positions to the next level with a beginner’s swing. This one is sturdy but also padded with velvet to ensure a comfortable ride. Forget what you see in dirty movies: Some positions are too rowdy to pull off without a swing. Give the gift of getting out of bed and trying something new.
Don’t just hit the prostate, stimulate it. With an angled shaft that seems to know exactly where that sweet spot is, this hands-free prostator is designed to do just that. It’s perfect for first-time starters who are looking to get into anal play. But it’s also hands-free, which means advanced players can “set it and forget it” while they find simultaneous pleasure elsewhere.
Imagine a fleshlight, but ten times better. Add some lube, slip on the flexible sleeve, choose one out of five intensity levels, sit back and enjoy the feeling of a blow job, no human required. The only thing dangerous about this gift is that the ultimate pleasure experienced while you switch seamlessly between pleasure levels might have you loving solo time a little more than you anticipated. But there’s no harm in that. Enjoy yourself! You’ve earned it.
For Couples
Who said fun is only reserved for the bedroom? Why not spark a flame and experience the erotic rush during a romantic evening out? This fun couple’s toy is one part massager and one part wireless remote allowing you to play with your person in adventurous places. Just be sure to use it discreetly unless you’re around folks who’ve consented to be part of your experience.
Usually, a double-edged sword is a bad thing. But, in this case, it’s all upside. Built with an echo function that mirrors the same level of intensity on both sides, couples are sure to experience pure synchronised bliss.
Know someone with a handyperson fantasy? Look no further: this black silicone vibrator literally comes in the shape of a hammer. The Love Hamma’s unique shape equips it with a bunny-eared clitoral stimulator and a long vibrating dildo, making it great for dual action pleasure with a boo, too. And all jokes aside, who wouldn’t want to get hammered by a hammer?
For anyone who wants to get lost in the moment and (consensually!) lose a bit of control, cuffs are always a great option. This pair comes in sleek black vegan leather with gold accents, adding a bit of extra flair to your sexy time. Consider this the perfect gift for friends who are looking to get into bondage and need some basic hardware to get started.
Sometimes, the key to good strap-on sex is having the right harness to strap your toy into. After all, it’s a little awkward to have your dildo fall off your body mid-thrust. This harness comes in black and purple and is made of vegan, adjustable nylon. If you’re into having a little vibration with your penetration, it also comes with a pocket to slip bullet vibrators in between the dildo and harness wearer.
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