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Though Billie Eilish has been open about her sexuality in the past, don’t expect to hear much from her about it again.
The Oscar-winning singer and songwriter said that she wishes no one knew anything about her sexuality, and indicated she wouldn’t be talking about it anymore in an interview published Tuesday in Vogue.
“I wish no one knew anything about my sexuality or anything about my dating life. Ever, ever, ever,” she said, showing what Vogue said was “visible frustration.” She added, “And I hope that they never will again. And I’m never talking about my sexuality ever again. And I’m never talking about who I’m dating ever again.”
To that end, Eilish shared that she has drawn a line between her private and public lives, including deleting all social media from her phone. She says the move has helped her not rely on others for satisfaction in her life.
“If I was happy in my life, it was because people loved me on the internet. And if I was upset in my life, it was usually because people didn’t,” she said. “I’ve learned to not to base my life around that.”
Eilish first came out last November in an interview with Variety, in which she said she was “physically attracted to women” but also “intimidated by them and their beauty and their presence.”
She later revealed that even her coming out was a bit of a mistake. “I didn’t [mean to come out in the story],” she told Variety a month later. “But I kind of thought, ‘Wasn’t it obvious?’ I didn’t realize people didn’t know. I just don’t really believe in it [coming out]. I’m just like, ‘Why can’t we just exist?’ I’ve been doing this for a long time, and I just didn’t talk about it.”
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The day after the Variety event, Eilish posted a plea on Instagram for questions about her sexuality to end.
“i like boys and girls leave me alone about it,” she wrote. “please literally who cares.”
A few months later, in April, Eilish told Rolling Stone that writing “Lunch” helped her come to terms with her own queerness, and that she had written part of it before ever becoming sexual with another woman.
“I just didn’t understand — until, last year, I realized I wanted my face in a vagina,” she said. But, she added, she “was never planning on talking about my sexuality ever in a million years.”
In June, Eilish once again alluded to her discomfort with people knowing too much about her private life while discussing “Lunch” with Lana Del Rey for Interview Magazine.
“It’s so weird to grow up and change in front of the world,” she said. “The craziest part is discovering things about myself and then suddenly, everyone else knows, and I don’t even have a second to think about how it makes me feel.”
Eilish is currently on the road in support of Hit Me Hard and Soft; her tour kicked off in late September in Canada and recently had its first U.S. show in Baltimore.
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